Anger Triggered
Open letter about how I try to act in stressful situations.
From a very early age, I have felt anger as an impulsive trigger that awakens one of my most animalistic sides. I even shed tears over everyday mishaps, even though I know they will be forgotten tomorrow. I tremble and have spasms over the wrong words. It is not easy for me to deal with anger at all, what motivates me every day to try to manage it .
The manifestation of anger is not necessarily physical aggression; it also manifests itself verbally and in our social withdrawal. We unconsciously reflect what we feel on the people we love most and on ourselves in a ville way, not necessarily to hurt them, but to get rid of something deep inside ourselves.
Managing emotions such as anger, for me, is an autonomous process, linked to solitude. Even so, I am still lucky to have the right people by my side, where needing time alone is not seen as an offense.
Emotional dependence is not only linked to obsession and affection, it is present when we are unable to manage our emotions on our own, anger being one of them.
Some tips that help me manage stressful moments:
Embrace your anger- Don't be afraid to respectfully say that something is bothering you, which helps us break the vicious cycle of emotions. Anger is a valid emotion like any other.
Play with the principles of anger- There are so many simple and innocent situations that cause us stress, trying to find comedy in small actions helps us to convert intentions of anguish into a lighter atmosphere.
Be grateful for being angry- We forget the beauty of having reasons to be angry or sad. Satisfaction takes away our purpose, being grateful for bad situations allows us to appreciate better situations. No one wants a monotonous life.
Identify- In moments of anger, try to identify what triggers us and why. Translate your feelings in order to connect the past to the present. Being aware of what affects us is a big step towards controlling anger.
Breathe your anger- When we find ourselves aware of this situation, take a moment for yourself. Take a deep breath and think about the transience of life; nothing that affects us today is eternal. Meditating also helps me.
All of this requires constant work. No one is completely free from emotional triggers; learning to manage them is an art.
I hope I have helped or at least made you feel seen.